#10
How satisfied you feel in your relationship has to
do with how connected you feel to your partner.
Research suggests that our ability to connect
with others (our attachment style) is influenced
by our childhood experiences. According to Prior
and Glasser (2006), 65% of children can be
classified as having a secure attachment style,
with the remaining 35% having an insecure
attachment style.
As an adult, an insecure attachment style is
associated with a slew of relationship troubles,
including jealousy, obsession, and emotional
highs and lows. The good news is that,
regardless of your present pattern, you can
become more securely attached, or connected, to
your partner by developing a deeper friendship.
To do that, incrementally spend more time with
her doing something you both enjoy. Also,
regularly ask for updates on your partner’s likes,
dislikes, current stressors, and new interests, as
people change over time.
#9
Remember when you first started dating, how you
used to go that extra mile to impress her? Well,
one of the secrets to a long, fulfilling relationship
is to continue to actively appreciate your partner.
You don’t necessarily have to pull out all the
stops the way you did back in the day, but
regular efforts to show your partner that you
appreciate her will do wonders for improving
your relationship.
If you’re not sure where to start, a good place is
by doling out daily compliments. Tell her she
looks hot or thank her for organizational abilities
when she reminds you to call your mother. The
only rule is to make sure that you genuinely
mean what you say.
To be continued tomorrow....
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