Domestic Violence in Relationships.

Chanttelle(not a real name) knew she was in trouble again. It’s 6:30 pm and she’s not home yet. It wasn’t really her fault, her boss just passed the folder to her around 3, and the presentation was slated for 8:00 a.m. the next day, so she had to stay past the 4:00 closing time.
Idriss (not a real name)   was fuming by the time he opened the door. “Have I not told you to always get home before 5?”
“I’m sorry honey, my boss…….” Chantelle began to explain before Idrss cut in
“Your boss abi, Stupid Woman! Your husband is hungry at home and ou’re talking about your boss”
“The work came in late and we had to do it.”
“Shut Up!” He hit her in the face.
The impact of the hit was so hard, she fell to the floor, Idriss kicked her again.”Never talk of your boss when I’m talking to you.”
Chantelle knew this would happen, she expected it. It’s been happening like this for the past one year, anytime she comes home late from work. She’s not been able to talk about it, because she doesn’t want to lose her marriage.
Every day, we see smiling faces of beautiful women, at work, in the market, churches or mosques. Everyone sems happy without problems, or with just a few issues to worry about in life. Bliss reigns supreme on their faces, but in reality, most women, (married and unmarried) go bout with one problem they are scared to open up about. – Violence in Relationship.
Violence in relationship which can be considered as domestic violence is a crime. It ranges from minor (hits, slaps) to major issues like beating up, “slavery” and even rape sometimes. In the U.S., at least four of every ten women has experienced one form of domestic violence in their relationship. In Africa, at least 70% of women have experienced violence.
As much as we know that domestic violence is a problem, it remains a great difficulty eradicating it (especially in Africa). Here, we believe that a man is superior to a woman. We believe that a woman is her husband’s property, and he can do anything to her, at will. Well, this perception is wrong. In the world today, men and women are of equal rights. Infact, more more importance is (rightly) given to feminine issues in the developed world, in a bid to balance and stabilize the society.
Respect for women is also to be advocated. Every man (except Adam) was born of a woman. They are our mothers. They are the world’s “salt”, and without their tender heart and acts, the world will be full of chaos. Yea, a woman may act naughty sometimes, but it takes maturity and civility to understand a woman’s nature, so you won’t commit murder.
To the women, if you are a victim of domestic violence, you need a way out. Please speak up! There are agencies and non-governmental organizations that help take care of issues like that. They also help in the rehabilitation of women who have suffered domestic violence.
To the men, a woman even if she’s your wife is not your property, (Property was never in the marital vows). So, the next time her opinion differs from yours, do not slap her. Make her see reasons with you. If she’s too tired for sex, do not force her. It’s RAPE! Leave her, or try to turn her on. When next she acts funny, do not hit her. Do not let your strength overpower you. Beating a woman only shows you are weak.  Talk to your woman, “cajole” her with soothing words and I can bet with you she’s gonna love her life more, and ultimately love you more.
NOTE: Some women believe domestic violence is normal. Please understand that it has never been and never will. Your life is yours, not any man’s.
For the men, if you wan show power, instead of to dey beat your wife or girlfriend, Go junction, you go see man like you. Fight am!!!