May 6, 2020

Sometimes it’s okay to have a low self-esteem - Victoria Abidoye


A healthy self-esteem is a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities. It is a feeling of having a sense of worth and placing value on yourself. Self-esteem is a confidence and satisfaction with oneself.

Self-esteem is seen in two regards, the low and high self-esteem. Low selfesteem is not having respect in yourself and your ability, not believing in yourself etc. High self-esteem on the other hand is the opposite of the low. 

While high self-esteem has been preached to be a must have, and low something to do away with, I’m here to tell you that sometimes it’s okay to have a low self-esteem too as long as it propels you to become a better person. 

“In my secondary school, there was this very brilliant classmate of mine, he told us he doesn't to read at home, however even at school he plays a lot, like a whole lot, but whenever we write test, he finishes first and has if not the highest score, second to the highest. This particular day we had an exam and despite warnings from different teachers that he shouldn’t always be quick to submit etc,  due to overconfidence, my guy thinking he knew everything and had it all figured out failed woefully and had to repeat a whole section.

This tells a whole lot. Many times with high self-esteem comes over confidence, pride and a kind of know it all attitude. I’m not ruling out totally the need for high esteem, I’m merely attesting that sometimes, a healthy self-esteem keeps us on our toes, wants us to attain perfection that we seem to lack and at the same time gives us the ability to be modest.

It is true that low self-esteem has its negative side, but then, doesn’t high self-esteem as well? The important thing is finding a balance between both.

There is a difference between an over bloated self esteem which leads to wrong performance. Low self esteem should be improved upon and we should all aim for a healthy self esteem.


May 4, 2020

CBN stops Access Bank; others from laying off Staff.

Just incase you were recently laid off or you are afraid of being laid off.

Hold your peace. The Central Bank of Nigeria has intervened in the ongoing layoff plan of some banks.

Read the memo below...


Apr 29, 2020

Funeral Allowed; Update from Lagos State Govt.

Ninth Update on Coronavirus by the Lagos State Incident Commander, Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu

Dear Lagosians,
1. It has become imperative for me to address you again today, following the culmination of the second phase of the Lockdown on Lagos, Ogun and the FCT, and the Nationwide Address by President Muhammadu Buhari yesterday. 

2. It is now my duty to share a broader framework for the implementation of the President’s directives here in Lagos State.

3. But before I do that, let me reiterate some of these directives, as outlined by the President in his address:

a. There will be an overnight curfew from 8pm to 6am, except for essential services. This means that from the hours of 8pm to 6am we expect all Lagosians to stay in their homes. 

b. Furthermore, there is a ban on interstate travel at this time. This means that no persons will be allowed in or out of Lagos until further notice, except for those delivering essential goods and services. And by this, we mean food items, petroleum products, newspapers, and essential manufactured goods.

c. According to the President, “Partial and controlled interstate movement of goods and services will be allowed for the movement of goods and services from producers to consumers.” 


4. Lagos State will be very strict in the implementation of this directive. As a first step, I am directing that vehicles carrying food and agricultural produce into Lagos from any part of the country cannot have more than 7 passengers on board. The same applies when these vehicles are leaving the state.

5. We are compelled to issue this directive because we have in recent weeks seen attempts to conceal people in trucks and other vehicles carrying essential items, with the aim of sneaking them into or out of the State. 

MEDICAL UPDATE

6. Dear Lagosians, before I fully outline the guidelines for the easing of the Lockdown in Lagos State, let me officially update you on the medical situation. Our
State continues to be the epicentre of #COVID19 in Nigeria. The total number of confirmed cases in our State as at midnight April 28, 2020 is 844. 

7. One Hundred and Forty-Three (143) persons have been treated and discharged, and I am pleased to announce that today alone, we are discharging 49 people, of whom there are 48 Nigerians and 1 Foreigner – a Greek national.  Of these there are 28 females and 21 males. Sadly, we have lost 19 people, and we currently have 682 active cases.

8. I have been on the phone with our medical personnel who contracted the Coronavirus; I spoke with all of them earlier today; and I am pleased to say that they are all doing very well and in very high spirits. We are all looking forward to their discharge very soon.

9. Our medical workers will continue to be top priority for us at this time, and we will continue to make available all the resources they require, in terms of Hazard Allowances, Covid Allowances, Personal Protective Equipment, psycho-social support, and others. 

10. We are continuing our active case finding in communities across Lagos State. So far, we have covered over 1.5million households; and we are also continuing to scale-up our Isolation and Treatment capacity. The Isolation Center at Gbagada opens tomorrow, and we are currently working on building three additional Isolation Centers in the state.  

11. Also ongoing are our relief package distribution efforts, with the kind support of private organisations and civil society groups. 

12. We are encouraging businesses in Lagos to commence the production of face masks, as we roll out a new campaign to Mask Up Lagos. This is an opportunity for our people, especially the youth, to display their creativity and artistic flair, and project the cultural spirit of Lagos State to the world. 

13. I will now go on to share details of how the Presidential Directives on the gradual easing of the Lockdown in Lagos State will be implemented and enforced.

PUBLIC SERVICE 

14. Our public officers in the entire unified public service from grade levels 1-12 are to remain and work from home; unless otherwise directed by their Accounting Officers. 

15. For those on Grade Levels 13 and above, Accounting Officers will carry out a Needs Assessment of critical staff, identify essential officers and draw up a Flexible Work Roster in compliance with Social Distancing principles.  The Head of Service will provide further details via a circular. 

16. None of these directives applies to essential service providers. These people are expected to continue working as frontline workers, whose services are deeply appreciated. 

MALLS/STORES/MARKETS 

17. All open markets and stores will be allowed to open daily from 9am till 3pm on selected days. Everyone attending these markets and stores will be mandated to observe precautionary measures of social distancing and very high levels of personal and hand hygiene. 

18. Malls will be allowed to open with the proviso that stores in the malls maintain a 60% occupancy capacity within the stores; while also ensuring that a 2-meter social distancing is maintained between every person and the next, in the store. 

19. Hand sanitizers and/or wash basins must be provided at all entry points, and temperature checks must be carried out. 

EATERIES AND RESTAURANTS 

20. Eateries and restaurants will be allowed to open daily between 9am and 3pm, but only take-out and delivery services will be permitted. In-dining services are not allowed. 

21. All food handlers and staff of eateries are expected to have gone through exhaustive health checks and must also practise high levels of personal and hand hygiene in serving members of the public. 

22. Food handlers are also mandated to wear masks and hand gloves at all times; particularly during the preparation and serving of the food.

23. Hand sanitizers and/or wash basins must be provided at all entry points, and temperature checks must be carried out periodically throughout the period they are open for business. 

HEALTHCARE 

24. All medical establishments will continue to open, and maintain a high index of suspicion for Covid-19. All suspected cases of Covid-19 must be immediately reported to the State Helpline: 08000-267662.
EDUCATION 

25. All Schools and Institutions at primary, secondary and tertiary levels remain physically closed.  Students are expected to continue learning on the alternative online and media channels announced by the various institutions of learning. 

RELIGIOUS ORGANISATIONS 
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26. All places of worship (both formal and informal) are to remain closed from any form of congregational services or assemblage, until further notice. 

27. Our Muslim brothers and sisters taking part in the Ramadan Fast must observe all meals and prayers within their homes. In line with the pronouncement of the Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA), no gatherings are allowed for Iftar, Suhur, and
Tarawih; and the conduct of Tafsir is also suspended. 

28. Because the process of ablution involves touching the face, it is essential to ensure that the hands are clean.
Ablution should, therefore, be preceded by the washing of hands with soap.

TRANSPORTATION 

29. The capacity of our public transportation system to reduce the risk of contagion will also be strengthened by a number of proactive measures we intend to take.
These are as follows:

a. All commuters are mandated to wear face masks at all times, sanitize with alcohol-based sanitizer or wash their hands with soap and running water before and after every trip.

b. All transport operators/companies are expected to sanitize their vehicles, parks and garages regularly and continuously at least before and after every trip.

c. All Transport Operators/Companies are expected to have at the entrance of the respective parks hand washing equipment with running water; and deploy temperature readers to test every passenger before boarding.

d. All operators are expected to have alcohol-based sanitizers in their vehicles for drivers, conductors and passengers.

e. All motor parks and garages must avoid overcrowding. Social distancing is required for passengers queuing up to board buses. 

f. All buses should be loaded to a maximum of 60% of full capacity. This means that if a bus normally takes 10 people at full capacity, during this period, no more than 6 persons can be allowed to board at any point in time. 

g. No standing allowed in all BRT and LBSL bus operations.  All air- conditioning systems in public transport systems must be switched off. 

h. All Operators, i.e. Drivers and Conductors, are mandated to always wear face masks and hand gloves while in transit and dispose of same appropriately. 


30. All of these guidelines as outlined – face masks, regular disinfection, hand-washing equipment, temperature checks, and 60% maximum capacity – shall equally apply to Water Transport Operations. 

31. In addition, from May 4, 2020, Water Transport Operations will be restricted to the period between 6am and 6pm daily, until further notice. 

32. Commercial Motorcycles, popularly known as Okadas, are to suspend their operations statewide, except for those motorcycles used for courier and logistics purposes. Tricycles (Kekes) operating in unrestricted areas, must not carry more than two passengers per trip and must ensure appropriate social distancing is maintained between passengers.
OFFICES AND BUSINESSES

33. From May 4, 2020, businesses are allowed to operate within a framework that we call a “Controlled Easing Phase”.  Let it be clear that this is not a full reopening of the economy. It is a gradual and controlled easing of the lockdown.  We will continue to monitor the public health situation; the economic impact of the lockdown and always adjust our responses accordingly.

34. Companies that choose to operate within this Controlled Easing Phase are to operate between 9am and 3pm; and are also directed to operate at a maximum of 60% of their staff capacity. 

35. Let me, however, say this: as many of us that can continue to work online and remotely from the office, please let us do so.   Online and Work-from-Home arrangements are highly encouraged to continue as much as is practicable.

36. We understand the important roles Banks and Financial Institutions play in our economy, and for this reason they are highly encouraged to open their branches and offer their full complement of services to the general public. They are however to observe the operational working hours of
9am to 3pm.  Very important for me to mention is that these Banks are also to ensure regular cleaning and decontamination of the various ATM machines.


37. For those institutions operating within the Controlled Easing Phase, certain measures and directives must be strictly adhered to.  These are:

a. All buildings are to ensure a 2-meter distancing measure is maintained in all common areas; and at all service and customer facing desks. 

b. All buildings are to maintain a 60% occupancy limit in all office rooms within the building; and no more than 50% of the elevator capacity in any building shall be utilized. 

c. Businesses/Companies are encouraged to make adequate arrangement for the transportation of their staff to their places of work to reduce the risk of contagion and exposure while traveling on public transportation. 

d. Companies transporting their staff to work in their private transportation arrangements shall be expected to strictly adhere to the principles of social distancing; as well as enjoin their staff to practise very high levels of hand and personal hygiene.

e. Hand sanitizers and/or wash basins must be made available at all entry points, and temperature checks must be carried out upon entry into the work premises. 

38. Whistleblowers are encouraged to report companies which flout these directives. Our whistleblower channels will be duly communicated to the public.  Whistleblowers are guaranteed full protection; their identities will be kept strictly confidential.  
ENTERTAINMENT CENTERS 

39. All entertainment centers such as event centers, cinemas, arcades, bars, casinos, day clubs, nightclubs and beaches will remain closed till further notice. 
PARKS, POOLS, SPAS, GYMS AND SALONS 

40. Swimming Pools, Gyms, Barber-shops, Spas, Beauty Salons, and all Public Parks, including those in private and residential estates, will continue to remain closed for another two weeks in the instance; at which point we will review and advise on the permissible opening date for these establishments.  Residents’ Associations should please enjoin their members as well as operators of businesses within their association to adhere to these directives.

ELDERLY 
41. All elderly persons, as well as all persons with underlying or pre-existing health conditions, are encouraged to stay indoors as much as is practicable; and request the assistance of those not in the vulnerable or elderly category to procure essential items needed.

FUNERALS
42. As I announced in my last address, funerals are permitted and encouraged with strict adherence to the published directives.  I would like to thank the people who have complied or are in the process of complying.  I would once again reiterate the approved guidelines for organizing and attending funerals:

a. Size of gathering should not exceed 20 people, including the officiating religious leaders. 

b. Physical distancing must be maintained. 

c. All guests must leave for their homes after the funeral; accompanying parties or receptions are not permitted. 

  IMPLEMENTATION COMMITTEE
43. Tomorrow, Thursday April 30, I will inaugurate a Committee comprising representatives of the National Union of Road Transport Workers (NURTW), Road Transport Employers Association of Nigeria (RTEAN), Private Transport Operators, Nigeria Employers'
Consultative Association (NECA), Manufacturers
Association of Nigeria (MAN), and the Lagos State Ministry of Commerce & Industry; Ministry of Finance and Ministry of Economic Planning and Budget.

44. This Committee will be charged with the responsibility of communicating, to their members, this framework I have outlined above, on the controlled easing of the Lockdown, so that we all fully understand what is expected from us. We are mindful of the fact that the success of the implementation will be determined by how well it is communicated to all the Stakeholders, and this Committee will play a critical role in this regard. 

CONCLUSION
45. As I close, let me specially thank everyone who has donated to the Lagos State Covid-19 response, by way of cash, medical equipment and other essential materials. Your generosity is greatly appreciated.  From Friday, May 1st, the Lagos State Government will be acknowledging all of you our worthy partners, in newspaper advertisements that will outline all that we have received, in the spirit of full transparency and accountability. 


46. Let us continue to remember that we are in unprecedented times; which call for unprecedented responses. We will have to adjust and adapt our behavior in ways that will be painful and uncomfortable, including maximizing the use of the tools of technology at our disposal. This also places upon us a duty to support the most psychologically vulnerable among us, which includes parents taking the time to explain to their children what is going on, in a way that they can understand.

47. We must all see these forced adjustments as a small price to pay to guarantee victory for humanity over a deadly and unrelenting enemy. 


Thank you.
Babajide Sanwo-Olu Governor of Lagos State
April 29, 2020


Apr 28, 2020

LOCKDOWN OVER!!! True motif!!!

So yesterday, President Muhammad Buhari in a prerecorded statement announce the temporary relaxing of the lockdown from Monday, 4th May, 2020.

He also announced a curfew daily from 8pm - 6am.

This sounds absolutely suspicious, this is due to the previous rumor of the 5G.

Some have expressed concerns and suspicion that is it possible that the government is planning to test the 5G network that has been rumored to be killing people in other countries?

We appreciate the relaxing of the lockdown but why the curfew from 8pm to 6am? Is that the time the Corona virus flies?

Something is obviously not being said to us by the government. We would wait and watch.

If you missed the statement, view it here>>>

Are you ready to resume? Post Covid'19 leadership skills


Hello again,
I want to talk about knowing when and how to be a leader. To have a better understanding, I will advise you take a look at my previous article, UNDERSTANDING THE TIMES (UTT for short) read it here (https://ruthabidoye.blogspot.com/2020/04/understanding-times-victoria-abidoye.html).

This article would be very short as I will just be outlining the key points and explaining only a few. Sequel to UTT, the first step of knowing how and when to be a leader is understanding the times which includes having foresight!

Now we might be under the leadership of someone, that does not say we can’t be leaders or prepare ourselves to be one, and that does not also say we should go and stage a revolt, lol!!!

Knowing how to be a leader is knowing when to lead, when to take charge and that can only happen when you have foresight.

Ø  You should take charge when there is confusion and when the supposed leader is not available.
Ø  You should take charge only when you are sure of what you are doing, you don’t want to be seen as a figurehead.
Ø  You should take charge when

How should you lead?

Ø  You should lead with your brain and senses working correctly
Ø  You should lead with your heart
Ø  You should lead without being swayed by your followers
Ø  You should lead with love.

Apr 27, 2020

How to know true love - Victoria Abidoye


Often times, believers are swayed by the term “I am in love with you” and I’m here to rearrange some mindsets.

First of all, we need to have some basic knowledge of the term “LOVE” God is love, that is, God is the definition of love. If it is not God, it is not Love. Understood?

So when someone says I am in love with you, the meaning and interpretation ought to be “I am in God with you” If this is not the interpretation you perceive, my dear, y’all need to check to know where you stand.

The safest form of love is the one in God….. Or Should I loud it? The safest form of Love is in God because that way, not only is God the foundation, you know whom you  both believe in and would not be scared of the future because you both hear, understand and believe the same things.

So this brings us to understanding the concept of Love. God is the definition of Love, to understand love, you have to understand God first, his selfless form of love, sending his only son, he didn’t have two. The only one he had, he preferred to give to mankind for the remission of sins. This shows that Love is selfless, he could have left mankind to suffer eternally, but the blood of Jesus speaks and he withholds his anger, this shows that Love is kind and patient. There is a lot to love by understanding the person of God and Jesus Christ.

So, as a believer, when I want to fall in love with somebody, anybody, I don’t fall in love with the person but with the God in that person, that way, no matter what that person is or what he or she does, I’m not angry or hurt because it is the God in that person I saw first.

Finally, my brethren (in Apostle Paul’s voice) let the love of God garrison your hearts and let the love from God abide with you, let the Love with God keep you, and let the love in God love you.


Apr 13, 2020

GET READY FOR HUGE DISCOUNT!!!


Are you an aggressive shopper and have been unable to shop due to the covid’19 crisis?

Get set to take advantage of huge sales after the covid’19 pandemic. This is because, if my calculation is accurate. Stall and business owners now have wares stocked up which should have since been sold off and restocked.

As a business owner myself, the first intuition of business owners after the pandemic is to get rid of all old stock and restock i.e start business afresh. Therefore, in my calculation, after covid’19, we would begin to see sales discount which we can take advantage of.

So while planning all other things, please plan to shop and enjoy your life.

Remember. After covid’19, those of us that would be surviving by God’s Grace would be stepping into a brand new world. Lets step out chic and stylish.

YOLO