DEALING WITH A NAGGING PARTNER

Everyone would like to have a sweet and smooth relationship, but sometimes we all encounter different problems with our partners. A major one is when you have a nagging partner, he/she criticises and complains about your decisions, behaviours and almost everything.
Your partner may be an outright bully, who enjoys being the aggressor. On the other hand, he/she may just be making those complaints honestly. In any case, we will discuss some ways you can deal with these kind of people and their complaints.


1. Give it a thought: Try to think of your partner's complaints from their own perspective. Se if there's a possibility of their criticism being genuine, or if there's any behaviour you need to change. I'm not asking you to change from being you...No, but you know the bad habits even you would complain about. So, next time your girlfriend or husband cimplains about your overspending, don't flare up. Check yourself, see if you're guilty, and see how you can change.


2. Don't Take it Personally: Try to understand your partner's situation. If your partner is going through some stress, or is depressed, they most probably will complain about even the most inconsequential things. It's never right to be verbally abused, but by understanding your partner's situation, you won't raise counter complaints, and this will help avoid problems that may arise from you trading criticisms.


3. Please Listen: Listen to your partner's complaints. Understand what he/she is aggrieved about, then ask them how they want you to help the situation. For example, when your partner says "You always get this place dirty, and it's up to me to tidy it", listen to him/her. What yiu should do is not to justify yourself, try not to get the place dirty, and ask how you can help with the cleaning. Ask honestly, how you can help with some of the things your partner complains about. If you help out based on their suggestions, next time there's a complaint, he/she won't do it aggressively...... since they know you'll probably understand.


4. Come to Agreements: Learn to reach agreements with your partner. When decisions are to be made, inform them, consult them, I can assure you, you are preventing any valid criticisms that may arise from results of those decisions for it will look like joint decisions. Never make your partner feel like you're imposing your own interests on them.

I wish you all the sweetness and smoothness you wish for in your relationship.

#HappyEaster