Trust and Gaining Trust

Hi there,
It’s  Danjuma
In day-to-day life activities, from school to work, relationships, homes and everywhere you can think of, you find people making comments like “that person can’t be trusted”. When such comments are made about someone, people take extra caution when relating with the person in question (or not even relate with such people at all).
Trust is really necessary for smooth co-habitation with other people. In your work place, lack of trust in you from your superiors may deny you lots of privileges (which may slow down your progress), no matter how qualified you may be. If you’re not trusted in school, you might have to go through hell-of-a-stress defending even the cheapest of grades.
Trust is most important in relationships, when you tell your spouse/partner you’d be staying late at work, or you’re on a ladies’ night out, you don’t want them (your partner) thinking you’re making excuses to not be around or ultimately think you’re cheating on them. Lack of trust has led to lots of major problems in relationships and most break ups are based on trust problems.
Be that as it may, getting people to trust you isn’t so much of an herculean task. Here are a few tips that may help you gain people’s trust anywhere
When you fix an appointment, be there on time
When you make a promise, try (as much as possible to fulfill it)
Try as much as possible to be sincere/truthful at all times.
Don’t let your known duties drag.
Try as much as possible not to be secretive
Do not surprise a lot (if you must surprise, be very sure it’s pleasurable)
Do not try too hard (at anything), people may start suspecting hidden intentions.
These few points, as well as understanding the nature of the person you are dealing with will surely help in winning their trust.
It is worthy of note however, that there are people who find it difficult to trust anybody. So, if you are satisfying your conscience and you’re still not winning their trust, they may have what some people call trust problems.
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