Vulnerable?? Here's what to do

”V” Card.

I bet when you saw “V” card you thought I was talking about virginity. But I must correct that notion,by ‘v’ card I mean Vulnerability card.

So many times, we start out being careful, but carefully, we become careless. What I’ll term “careful-carelessness”.
Vulnerability creates a feeling of emotional imbalance.

Everything goes, things said that should be forgotten stays, everything gets to you. You try to please everybody because you believe you’re not perfect and you’re made to satisfy everyone without pleasing yourself. You beat yourself hard when things fall apart, even when you’re not wrong. You love and trust easily and you get hurt in the blink of an eye, you don’t want to get too attached because jealousy sets in[possessive], you grow on the nearest person close( the person you live with or live close to). when you see people whisper, you’re of the notion that they’re talking about you. Am I right? Well maybe.

Vulnerability makes you conscious of your fears, and instead of fighting and overcoming your fears, You’re afraid of your fears and you walk side by side with your fears.

I’m not opposed to love but love makes people vulnerable. Some people might say that love heals and makes people stronger, maybe while in love that happens but after heart break, you become weak and open to anything, thus, vulnerability stalks in. Even in love you start thinking of the opinion of the other person, Love is a risk that make you vulnerable. Love opens you to expectations and if these are not met, you could become vulnerable.

What makes people Vulnerable
Family background
Self esteem
Lack of knowledge of self worth
Insults
Passion
Bullying
Mood swings etc…..

To loose your “V” card

Know your ability/strength (i.e what you can do and cannot do)
Know who you are
Pay conscious effort to not allow things to get to you(guide your heart carefully)
Pass your limit (i.e what you can do, surpass it)
Try and always speak in gatherings
Meet new people
Live your life
Don’t live according to the dictates of others
Always try to please yourself (remember you’re the most important)
Love yourself.

   Being vulnerable is not a curse, it means you’re human. Some people do not even know that they’re vulnerable. But when too vulnerable is when there’s a challenge because you’re giving people the opportunity to have the upper hand in your life. Then your life really becomes a shit hole. 

P:S: Whatever you’re afraid of might be your weakness and watch out!!! you just might be vulnerable to that.

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